I don’t believe in magic! How the spiritual and scientific come together in Meditation

When I was young my life was full of magic. Fairies were real. Impossible things could magically happen and so much of the world around me felt mysteriously unexplainable in the best way. When I started to read independently, my favourite books were full of sorceress’s, wizards, magical realms, grand quests and, most of all, anything was possible.

Were you the same? What magic did you believe in? Maybe for you it was the magic of drawing on a page, climbing a tree, or getting lost in music...whatever shape magic takes, there's no doubt that most of us could find it in some form or another as children.

The invasion of the practical

Of course, like all of us, I had to leave that world behind. When I was a teenager, family life was tough financially and everything was a struggle. I swapped magic for earning money at the corner shop to subsidise the weekly shop. The lesson I learnt back then was that life is hard and you have to work and push to survive. That if you aren’t careful you will be washed away and everything will be taken away from you. Survival mode was hard wired in me as a way of experiencing the world.

That wasn't a tragedy. It led me to achieve many amazing things and to discover that I was capable of more than I imagined.

We all leave fairy-land behind

I suspect many of us have this lesson in one form or another as we grow up.

Maybe we learn that out value is in the results we achieve. Or maybe we have to look a certain way in order to be ok. Perhaps we leave childhood with the fear that we’ll never know that safety again. In a way there’s a necessary pulling away from fantasy as we live in this modern world. Fairytales and fantasies are all well and good but they don’t pay the bills now do they? Except, somewhere along the way I suspect we threw the baby away with the bathwater.

The Value of Magic

I left university with an excellent degree and joined a Graduate programme with a clear pathway to success. I worked hard. Then I worked harder. I pushed forward, I achieved success…so it worked. But after I had my children, I realised I didn’t want to go back. Even though I had ticked all the boxes and was doing what I was “supposed” to be doing, my appetite for the hustle evaporated. It took me some time to find out what was missing for me and the answer was surprising. What I really needed in order to come home to my truest self was to rediscover a little bit of magic.

Closing your eyes to open your life

Meditation feels like a little bit of magic when you first discover it. Waiting behind your eyes is a window onto all of the activity of your mind. No one else can see it. It's completely invisible. You never know what’s going to show up and it’s constantly changing.

Just like magic, finding that place can feel a little bit elusive without the right instructions. So many people tell me that meditation "doesn't work" for them. Then, when I share a little of how to make it simple and the science behind it, they say "Oh! I can do THAT! I didn't know that was meditation".

As you navigate the challenges of mid life, the skill and practice of pausing in this way becomes even more important. Stress is like kryptonite to your hormone system so if you want to manage the impact of hormonal changes, creating ways to process stress becomes even more important.

3 Steps to rediscover your magic

So how can you discover the magic that’s waiting behind your eyes? Or how can you reconnect if you drift in and out of making it part of your life? The real magic is that the struggle is just an illusion. Most of the reasons we struggle with meditation are completely made up by our mind and the beliefs we hold. Here’s 3 of them and some suggestions for how you can shift them: 1. Illusion 1: The Empty Mind Ever felt like a meditation failure because you can’t make your mind be still? Yep, me too! In fact, despite meditating for thousands of hours, my mind is often "busy" in meditation. Good news! Like all the best magic tricks, there’s a counter intuitive answer.

To empty your mind, you need to stop trying to empty your mind! Yes, I know that sounds a bit back to front - but the science of meditation shows us that you can achieve structural changes in your brain and in how you process stress through meditation. Those changes aren't dependent on whether you achieve the impossible and stop your mind from thinking.

Meditation is really a quality of attention rather than an outcome. Yes, there are times when your mind will calm and settle in meditation. You will become aware that there are no thoughts and it can feel incredible. But that's not actually the point. Your only “job” in meditation (I see you, goal setters and achievers wanting to know how to succeed!) is to notice when you’ve been distracted by your thoughts. That’s it. No more striving. The thoughts themselves (or the feelings or sensations you notice) are never the problem. It's how you pay attention to them that can cause you to suffer.

Imagine that your mind is a snow globe, the thoughts flying around like the snow. When you stop and turn inwards, you begin to let the snow settle. At first, and often, what you become aware of is the snow.

Over time, the snow does settle. Then there's space to see things more clearly and have space to choose how to respond.

2. Illusion 2: The Mountain Top I know the image of meditation is often a monk on a mountaintop. Or at the very least some cool, zen like space where there’s nothing but the gentle waft of scented candles and tranquil sounds. In reality, most of us don’t live that way. Our lives are noisy, busy and messy. And guess what? That’s ok! Often the biggest barrier to giving ourselves space to turn inwards is the busy-ness of our daily life. So how about if it became totally ok for it to still be busy? As nice as a calm and tranquil space can be, you can meditate anywhere: On a train. In your car. In your office chair. Sitting up in bed. And if distractions come, they’re another thing to notice and gently bring your mind back from. One breath at a time… 3. Illusion 3: Ever Expanding Time “I don’t have time for this!” I hear you cry. More good news! You don’t need to meditate for hours on end. You don’t need to find heaps of extra time in your already crammed days. In fact, research shows that micro moments of paying attention on purpose in the present moment (without judging the experience) can be just as effective. For a more formal practice, even 5 minutes a day will make a difference to your mind. You can download my "Get Started Now!" mini meditation course here - it includes a handy 5 minute download and some quick and helpful tips to get you started effortlessly Helping you to feel calmer, clearer and less overwhelmed.

Which Illusion strikes a chord for you?

Do any of these 3 feel like barriers for you? Sometimes we’re not even aware of the ways we’ve held a belief about whether something is possible. You might just “have a feeling” that meditation wouldn’t work for you. Or perhaps you tried it and couldn’t make it stick. You can try my 21 Day Calm and Clarity Reset if you’d like to find some simple ways to create magic in your life. It will give you all the steps you need to actually make the magic happen, no matter how busy life gets.

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"I was able to reach the stillness within me and find both space and clarity for the first time in ages. It has helped me “shed” a lot of unhelpful thinking patterns". - Be. Student , 21 Day Stress & Overwhelm Detox,

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I love to bring together science and magic. For me, meditation is deeply practical and grounded in neuroscience and psychology.

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Laura @ Be. x

“And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.” – Roald Dahl